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BABY LOSS AWARENESS WEEK 2018 // BREAK THE SILENCE

BREAK THE SILENCE

Baby loss awareness week

9th – 15th October 2018

 

I write this post as tears begin to flood my eyes. Warm, salty tears rolling down my cheeks, streaking the make-up mask I wear daily to keep me feeling/looking/seeming normal. To plaster a happy face over my sad one. This very time last year I was recovering from the ERPC operation that physically ended my miscarriage.

A whole year on, mentally, it’s still very raw, it’s still very fresh, it still very much hurts. A whole year on, I’m still longing for – unashamedly needing to have my arms full with a newborn son or daughter, a brother or sister for Eli. My heart aches. When you lose a child, at any stage, you are left haunted by wonder. Wonder who they might have been. That’s what makes it so hard to move on…

It’s been such a long time since we started trying for our second child – our journey began back in March 2017. And here I am, sat at my laptop around 580 days (thats 19 months, in new money, not that I’m keeping check) later – still wishing, still hoping, still feeling huge pangs of guilt because I’m covertly jealous of women that I spot with a beautiful bump; or those with a new babe in arms. It’s easily taking up the majority of my thinking throughout my day – not to mention rudely interrupting my sleep too. Tell me I’m not the only one who dreams mosts nights about parenting a brand new bebé?!

Never would I have imagined it would be such a long, drawn out process. I’m not just talking about the physical aspect of miscarriage – because that definitely sucks and takes ages to recover from too – but the mental heartbreak.

As I’m sat typing this, many other women, couples, families are also going through it too. Around the world. As I’ve mentioned many times, 1 in 4 of us will go through it at some point. 1 in 4 of you have been there. You too know the physical pain, the emotional pain.

Miscarriage and baby loss does not discriminate, it can happen to anyone. It is not rare. So, I wanted to write a blog post dedicated to you, as today marks the beginning of Baby Loss Awareness Week 2018; which is held annually, globally, to remember those very tiny lives lost in pregnancy and soon after birth. The week will culminate with the annual Wave of Light on Monday 15th October at 7pm. See further details below.

I’m not sure how else to say it – but thank you for all the kindness shown to us over the past year. For listening and sharing.  365 days on, I’m still overwhelmed by the messages and and I’ll never forget it.

I’m an over-sharer by nature, sometimes to my own detriment, but mostly,  apart from this whole blogging process being cathartic for me, I also wanted to share because thats how we learn. We learn from others’ experiences. What I found, was that Pregnancy & Baby Loss was exceptionally un-talked about. It’s 2018 and this is still seen as taboo and very private – is that a British thing? Or is this the opinion people have worldwide? It’s crazy, don’t you think? Not to talk and share openly? To grieve and take time to do so.

In general, I am ridiculously British about things – I’m pretty naive, I’m pretty prudish. I get bashful at the mention of S-E-X. But THIS, this, I NEED to talk about. I also need you to talk out too. SO! Let’s get together to break the silence of miscarriage & baby loss during this, Baby Loss Awareness Month.

I’d like to propose that my blog serves as a platform for you to be able to share with me… and importantly, with others too. If your experience has proven too difficult to talk about openly, I am more than happy to publish stories anonymously. Whatever works for you – just PLEASE talk. Though I’m certainly not known for being concise,  yours does not have to be lengthy – just a few words from the heart to help yourself and others heal. It will definitely be a comfort and support for those reading – whilst also being therapeutic for yourself. Personally? I have found true solace in these online realms. I can’t be the only one?!

You can contact me via the comments below, FB & IG private direct messages or via email: claire[at]clairebriston.com

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BABY LOSS AWARENESS WEEK // EVENTS

Charities such as the below also have ways to get involved this week, in support for Baby Loss Awareness Week. Events that (are known) you can join are listed on the Baby Loss Awareness site, here.

Online events

  • 9 October 8 pm Join a webinar in the comfort of your own home: Baby Loss, Miscarriage and Stillbirth. With Dr Raj Rai – Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic, St Mary’s HospitalSign up here
  • 15 October 7 – 7:30 pm Online Wave of Light Group Meditation Further information here

Parliamentary activity & events (invitation only)

England

  • 8-12 October: Display in Upper Waiting Hall in House of Commons, Westminster, on pregnancy and baby loss and the National Bereavement Care Pathway.
  • 9 October: Debate in House of Commons
  • 11 October: Event sponsored by the All Party Parliamentary Group on Baby Loss in the House of Commons to raise awareness of baby loss with MPs, followed by a remembrance service for MPs, peers and parliamentary staff.

Scotland

  • 3 October: Event in Scottish Parliament

Wales

  • 3 October: Debate in Welsh Assembly
  • 10 October: Candle Event sponsored by Mark Drakeford AM at Main Hall, The Pierhead, Cardiff

 

IMPOSSIBLY BRILLIANT HELP & SUPPORT NETWORKS // THERE FOR YOU 24/7

TOMMY’S

1 in 4 parents will have to go through the heartbreak of losing a child during pregnancy or birth. We need your help to stop these tragic deaths. Please join Team Tommy’s and help us find answers and cures.

Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy is a devastating experience. It is hard to believe that in this day and age, up to one in four women will lose a baby during pregnancy or birth.

Tommy’s exists to change the unacceptable statistics connected to baby loss.

Thanks to the support of our incredible community, our research has lead to a reduced stillbirth rate of 22% in Greater Manchester between 2010 and 2014 and a 23% reduction in premature births in high risk women attending our London clinic during 2014-15.

Learn more about the impact of our work here: http://bit.ly/2we9Cvk#Babyloss

DONATE >> Make a donation to Tommy’s, The Baby Charity.

THE MISCARRIAGE ASSOCIATION

Stories of good care
During Babyloss Awareness Week this year, the 40 participating charities and groups are calling for improved care following the loss of a baby during pregnancy, or during or shortly after birth.

As part of this campaign, we are asking people to share their experiences of good care they have received, perhaps from a midwife, sonographer, friend or colleague. If you would like to get involved, please email a story of less than 150 words to babyloss@sands.org.uk, copying us in on awareness@miscarriageassociation.org.uk.

You can find more details on the Babyloss Awareness Week website.

Wave of light this Monday
Last year we made a special video slideshow using hundreds of candles that lit up our Facebook page in memory of babies lost far too soon. If you’d like yours included this year, please add a note ‘For the video’ when you upload a picture.

While Baby Loss Awareness Week can be a special time of remembering and speaking about loss, we understand that it can also evoke painful memories. If you need to talk, please feel free to call our helpline on on 01924 200 799 (Monday – Friday9 a.m – 4 p.m) or see our website for other ways we offer support.

DONATE >> Make a donation to The Miscarriage Association

BABY LOSS AWARENESS

Share your experience – this could be by telling a friend about Baby Loss Awareness Week, talking about your experience or wearing a Baby Loss Awareness pin badge. You could also use our specially designed social media images on your website, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, work intranet or noticeboard.

DONATE >> Make a donation to Babyloss Awareness.

SANDS – STILLBIRTH AND NEONATAL DEATH CHARITY

Sands is the stillbirth and neonatal death charity. We operate throughout the UK, supporting anyone affected by the death of a baby, working to improve the care bereaved parents receive, and promoting research to reduce the loss of babies’ lives.

Sands, the stillbirth and neonatal death charity, was founded in 1978 by a small group of bereaved parents who were devastated by the death of their babies, and by the total lack of acknowledgement and understanding of the significance and impact of their loss.

DONATE >> Make a donation to SANDS.

THE LULLABY TRUST

The Lullaby Trust provides emotional support for bereaved families, promotes expert advice on safer baby sleep and raises awareness of sudden infant death.

Working with the NHS, we run a national health-visitor led service for bereaved parents, Care of Next Infant (CONI) programme, which supports families before and after the birth of their new baby.

We are committed to supporting research to understand why so many babies a year die suddenly and unexpectedly in the UK and to find out more about how to prevent these tragic deaths.

The Lullaby Trust operates nationwide across England, Wales and Northern Ireland. We run an information line for parents and professionals (0808 802 6869) and a dedicated line for bereaved families (0808 802 6868). Both are free to call from landlines and mobiles.

We campaign tirelessly, lobbying government to keep sudden infant death on the public health agenda. Since we formed as The Foundation for the Study of Sudden Infant Deaths (FSID) in 1971 we have been pivotal in reducing sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) by over 80%.

DONATE >> Make a donation to The Lullaby Trust

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BABY LOSS AWARENESS 2018 // MARKS & SPENCER

BABY LOSS AWARENESS WEEK // 9TH – 15TH OCTOBER 2018

As we’re now into October (HOW? I know how, but seriously, HOW?!), I thought I would address a few things. But mainly this blog post is in support of a few items that Marks & Spencer have created in aid of raising awareness this Baby Loss Awareness Week (and month).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The 4th October, just before Baby Loss Awareness Week 2018 begins, will be poignant for me as it’s a year to the day that my miscarriage finally came to an end (after beginning in the August of 2017).  Although, it doesn’t ever really ‘end’ really, does it?

A year of all the emotions. A year of wondering and wishing. A year of new and desperate hope.

Every year we will continue to acknowledge the baby that never landed in our arms, by joining in with the Wave of Light, annually, on 15th October.

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The death of a baby is not a rare event. It can happen to anyone.

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*Every year, thousands of people in the UK are affected by the death of a baby or experience pregnancy loss. With the shocking statistic that it will personally affect 1 in 4 of us.

A collaboration between more than 60 charities across the UK, Baby Loss Awareness Week is held from 9th to 15th October to raise awareness about the key issues affecting those who have experienced pregnancy loss or baby death in the UK.

Throughout the week bereaved parents, their families and friends, unite with each other and others across the world to commemorate the lives of babies who died during pregnancy, at or soon after birth and in infancy.

Now in its 16th year, Baby Loss Awareness Week calls for tangible improvements in research, care and policy around bereavement support and highlights bereavement support and services available for anyone affected by the death of a baby at any stage.

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With all this in mind, Marks & Spencer have collaborated and created three items to support raising awareness of such a worthy cause.

Pure Cotton Baby Loss Awareness T-Shirt
M&S // BABY LOSS AWARENESS TEE //
£9.50
Pure Cotton Baby Loss Awareness T-Shirt
M&S // BABY LOSS AWARENESS TEE //
£9.50

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

M&S // BABY LOSS AWARENESS CANDLE // £6.00

Amy Mott specially designed the t-shirt, is a buyer at M&S and has been personally affected by baby loss:

“Having been affected by baby loss I wanted to break the silence around the issue and get everyone talking about baby loss during the awareness week. My design on the T-shirt and candle is a meaningful tribute of the everlasting love that is felt for a baby and can be worn in support of this fantastic platform that offers advice and acts as a support network”.

M&S will also be donating £15,000 to help support Baby Loss Awareness Week. For more information, please visit babyloss-awareness.org.

Whether you’ve been affected by the loss of a baby, you know someone who has, or you wish to spread the message and show your support, this Baby Loss Awareness candle and other candles will be uniting the world through social media on 15th October, in the name of the many babies who lit up our lives for just a short moment. Use the hashtag’s #WaveofLight, #BLAW2018 to share your love and support.

Thank you to Marks and Spencer for supporting Baby Loss Awareness Week. These specially designed t-shirts and the candle are now available to purchase online. Thank you for helping us to break the silence around pregnancy and continue the #babyloss conversation.

*words & statistics taken from https: //babyloss-awareness.org


Read more from my journey:

Miscarriage & Me
Miscarriage & Me // An Update
Miscarriage & Me // An Update: 2
Miscarriage & Me // An Update: 3
Baby Loss Awareness Week 2017 // Break the silence
Miscarriage & Me // An Update: 4
JULY 2018:  Miscarriage & Me // An Update: 5
AUGUST 2018: Miscarriage & Me // A letter to myself | Hi-Mama Letters

Support networks:

Baby Loss Awareness 
The Miscarriage Association
Tommy’s, The Baby Charity
Cruse, Bereavement Care
SANDS, Stillbirth & Neonatal Charity

 

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NEVER CONCISE HOME // LIVING ROOM // Mid-Season Update

MID-SEASON LIVING ROOM UPDATE

As we’re now in September (HOW, seriously, HOW?),  and Eli is back to school, I can finally get round to tidying up the house. I have a rather large wish-list of items I’d love for our home, of which I am continually adding to! Having rented for the 15 years we’ve been together, it sometimes feels like our home isn’t ‘home’ as we can’t ever rip up the carpets, or decorate with paints or paper, or add extensions or knock down walls etc. But by using accessories and furniture, we can certainly make the blank canvas that we currently call home a bit more like our own.

INSTAGRAM RUG - AFAR BERBER RUG - LA REDOUTE
LA REDOUTE // “THE INSTAGRAM RUG” // Afaw Berber Rug
£99.00
LA REDOUTE // WATFORD SHELF (SET OF 2) //
£76.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Rugs are a great way to add texture, warmth and of course, personality to a room. I still adore the ‘Instagram Rug‘ from La Redoute.  The Afaw Berber style rug is off white, which is flattering to any colour scheme, but also hides a multitude of sins when you have kids running about – pristine white is a bit of a no-go in our house, that’s for sure!

LA REDOUTE // HIBA MAGAZINE RACK //
£65.00
habitat coralie side table
HABITAT // CORALIE // Side Table //
WAS: £150.00 – NOW: £75.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We have a few leather and natural wood accents in our home. I made the coffee table we currently use from an older butchers block with black Dansette legs. So this Habitat side table would sit really nicely next to that.

COX & COX // SCANDI LOVE SEAT // Blush Pink Velvet
COX & COX // SCANDI LOVE SEAT // Blush Pink
£1,295.00

Can you ever go wrong with a bit of blush pink? We currently only really have blush pink accents in our main bedroom. But I love this COX & COX Love Seat so much, it would have to be in the living room!

made.com bex round circle mirror in black
MADE.COM // BEX MIRROR // Black
£99.00
made.com essentials clock black morley
MADE.COM // MORLEY CLOCK // Black
£10.00

 

 

How much of a bargain is this Made.com Clock? At just £10, this is a great  timepiece for the wall with a minimalist aesthetic, reminiscent of the beautiful Swiss railway clocks.

 DYLAN BASE habitat walnut lamp standard floor lamp stand
HABITAT // DYLAN LAMP BASE // Walnut //
£95.00
Buy Cowshed Limited Edition 20th Anniversary Double Wick Candle , 400g Online at johnlewis.com
COWSHED // 20TH ANNIVERSARY CANDLE // 400G £65.00
Uyova Amulet-Shaped Metal Mirror - LA REDOUTE
LA REDOUTE // UYOVA AMULET-SHAPED MIRROR // Metal //
£27.00
Cushion cover - Beige/Patterned - Home All | H&M GB 1
H&M HOME // CUSHION // Beige //
£19.99
Buy Umbra Trigg Small Wall Planters, White, Set of 2 Online at johnlewis.com
UMBRA // SMALL WALL PLANTERS // White //
£25.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Cement Style Tall Planter next
NEXT // TALL PLANTER // Cement //
£55.00

I’m currently in love with Danish planters and I love the modern twist of Cement with these from NEXT (!!!! I KNOW!).

LA REDOUTE // TREBLA BASKET // Small //
£27.00
COX & COX // BOOT RACK // Black //
£65.00
Luxe Round Bamboo Drinks Trolley
OLIVER BONAS // DRINKS TROLLEY // Bamboo //
£395.00

 

Ahhh the beautiful bar cart of dreams from Oliver Bonas! I have a feeling this will be on my wishlist for a loooooooong time. This bar cart (well, initially the stunning vintage carts and trolleys of Soho House…) inspired me to make my very own bar cart – you can see my blog post on the DIY for this > HERE!

Abstract Framed Print
NEXT // ABSTRACT PRINT // Framed //
£35.00
Jett 6 Light Fitting
NEXT // JETT LIGHT FITTING // Black Metal //
£110.00
Florbella Scalloped Ceramic Vase
OLIVER BONAS // SCALLOPED VASE // Ceramic //
£27.00

 

 

 

 

Marble Ball Incense Holder
OLIVER BONAS // INCENSE HOLDER // Marble //
£19.00

 

BuyJohn Lewis & Partners Chunky Knit Throw, Natural Online at johnlewis.com
JOHN LEWIS & PARTNERS // THROW // Chunky Knit //
£65.00
Hush Linen & Room Spray | hush
HUSH HOMEWEAR // ROOM SPRAY // Linen //
£19.00

 

The Monet foot stool - Att Pynta
ATT PYNTA // FOOT STOOL // Rattan //
£245.00
Handmade Stoneware glazed plant hanger with bead detail
ATT PYNTA // STONEWARE HANGER // Handmade //
£35.00

 

 

IKEA FEJKA artificial potted plant
IKEA // FEJKA // Artificial Bamboo Plant //
£45.00

If you’re not so green-fingered, IKEA stock a brilliant range of artificial plants and flowers. I love this Bamboo, it looks really life-like in, er, real life.

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MARKS & SPENCER // FERN // Crackle Pot //
£49.50
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MARKS & SPENCER // CACTUC // IN CRACKLE POT
£49.50

 

OFFERS & PROMOTIONS

25% off everything code at La Redoute

25% off all home at La Redoute!
Code: SAVE25
Ends: 27th September 2018

CLICK TO SHOP

 

I like to move furniture about to give a fresh lease of life to a room – this is a a great way to change your perspective of a room without dipping into the bank. But if you had the cash at hand, what new Living Room items would you go for first? What are you lusting after?

#NeverKnowinglyConciseHOME

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BRAND IN FOCUS // HUSH | SUMMER ’18 – MASSIVE COMPETITION!

WIN… a Stay for Two in Malibu

To mark the launch of the new HUSH capsule summer collection,  they’re offering you the chance to win a trip to California’s Pacific coastline, with a five-night stay at the Surfrider hotel and flights included! HOLY MOLY indeed.

Opposite the eponymous beach, with sweeping views down to Malibu Pier, sits the Surfrider hotel: your Californian beach house fantasy come to life. If Nancy Meyers made (another) movie set in a beach house – this would be the set.

There are still shades of the 1950s motel in the vintage surfboards casually propped around the place, but the rest has been made over in impeccable coastal-inspired taste: think natural textures, crisp white cotton bed linen, wicker chairs, over-sized rattan lampshades, white-washed wood, and sea-view terraces for two. Plus – of course – those luxury touches no self-respecting boutique hotel should be without.

It would be easy to while away the hours swinging in your own hammock and soaking up the view, but then you’d miss the Roof Deck – the in-house bar and restaurant serving organic Calfornian fare (don’t worry – it’s residents-only, so there’s plenty of space for lounging up there, too). If you can be lured away from that view, the hotel can arrange picnics, hiking adventures, and – of course – surf safaris.

If you’ve come over all California dreaming, simply enter your details in the form for a chance to win.

Just an amazing prize!

To enter, simply fill in the form on the HUSH website, here.

Can’t wait to get your hands on the new collection? Shop Hush Summer in the Never Concise Shop, now!

Good luck!

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*words from the HUSH Blog.

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INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY // 2 0 1 8

INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY // 2 0 1 8

I can’t quite believe how quickly the past year has gone – but my goodness, something I do believe, is that Women are really a force to be reckoned with. We’ll take no rubbish.  We’ll stand up for what we believe in. We won’t stand down.  Stay soft. Stay brave. Stay fierce. Stay kind. Stay curious. Stay honest. Keep supporting your peers, your family, your friends & strangers, who happen to be WOMEN. Don’t take no for an answer. Oh and just love with your whole heart, you wonder WOMAN 🖤

For me and my family, personally, it’s been a bloody tough year. But in the days and nights of pain, I’ve found solace in the words and support of strong Women. I would not be in the position I am right now, without them. For this and a million other achievements, thank you.

These words, by Elizabeth Gilbert, resonated with me:


“The women I love and admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong and they handled it. They handled it a thousand different ways on a thousand different days, but they handled it. Those women are my superheroes”.

 

Read more on the #PressForProgress movement, here: internationalwomensday.com

So Happy International Women’s Day – whether you’re a Woman or a Man, let’s celebrate and support Womankind, everywhere.

C

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#iwd #internationalwomensday2018 #internationalwomensday #womenempowerment #womanhood #sisterhood