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BABY LOSS AWARENESS WEEK 2018 // BREAK THE SILENCE

BREAK THE SILENCE

Baby loss awareness week

9th – 15th October 2018

 

I write this post as tears begin to flood my eyes. Warm, salty tears rolling down my cheeks, streaking the make-up mask I wear daily to keep me feeling/looking/seeming normal. To plaster a happy face over my sad one. This very time last year I was recovering from the ERPC operation that physically ended my miscarriage.

A whole year on, mentally, it’s still very raw, it’s still very fresh, it still very much hurts. A whole year on, I’m still longing for – unashamedly needing to have my arms full with a newborn son or daughter, a brother or sister for Eli. My heart aches. When you lose a child, at any stage, you are left haunted by wonder. Wonder who they might have been. That’s what makes it so hard to move on…

It’s been such a long time since we started trying for our second child – our journey began back in March 2017. And here I am, sat at my laptop around 580 days (thats 19 months, in new money, not that I’m keeping check) later – still wishing, still hoping, still feeling huge pangs of guilt because I’m covertly jealous of women that I spot with a beautiful bump; or those with a new babe in arms. It’s easily taking up the majority of my thinking throughout my day – not to mention rudely interrupting my sleep too. Tell me I’m not the only one who dreams mosts nights about parenting a brand new bebé?!

Never would I have imagined it would be such a long, drawn out process. I’m not just talking about the physical aspect of miscarriage – because that definitely sucks and takes ages to recover from too – but the mental heartbreak.

As I’m sat typing this, many other women, couples, families are also going through it too. Around the world. As I’ve mentioned many times, 1 in 4 of us will go through it at some point. 1 in 4 of you have been there. You too know the physical pain, the emotional pain.

Miscarriage and baby loss does not discriminate, it can happen to anyone. It is not rare. So, I wanted to write a blog post dedicated to you, as today marks the beginning of Baby Loss Awareness Week 2018; which is held annually, globally, to remember those very tiny lives lost in pregnancy and soon after birth. The week will culminate with the annual Wave of Light on Monday 15th October at 7pm. See further details below.

I’m not sure how else to say it – but thank you for all the kindness shown to us over the past year. For listening and sharing.  365 days on, I’m still overwhelmed by the messages and and I’ll never forget it.

I’m an over-sharer by nature, sometimes to my own detriment, but mostly,  apart from this whole blogging process being cathartic for me, I also wanted to share because thats how we learn. We learn from others’ experiences. What I found, was that Pregnancy & Baby Loss was exceptionally un-talked about. It’s 2018 and this is still seen as taboo and very private – is that a British thing? Or is this the opinion people have worldwide? It’s crazy, don’t you think? Not to talk and share openly? To grieve and take time to do so.

In general, I am ridiculously British about things – I’m pretty naive, I’m pretty prudish. I get bashful at the mention of S-E-X. But THIS, this, I NEED to talk about. I also need you to talk out too. SO! Let’s get together to break the silence of miscarriage & baby loss during this, Baby Loss Awareness Month.

I’d like to propose that my blog serves as a platform for you to be able to share with me… and importantly, with others too. If your experience has proven too difficult to talk about openly, I am more than happy to publish stories anonymously. Whatever works for you – just PLEASE talk. Though I’m certainly not known for being concise,  yours does not have to be lengthy – just a few words from the heart to help yourself and others heal. It will definitely be a comfort and support for those reading – whilst also being therapeutic for yourself. Personally? I have found true solace in these online realms. I can’t be the only one?!

You can contact me via the comments below, FB & IG private direct messages or via email: claire[at]clairebriston.com

C
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BABY LOSS AWARENESS WEEK // EVENTS

Charities such as the below also have ways to get involved this week, in support for Baby Loss Awareness Week. Events that (are known) you can join are listed on the Baby Loss Awareness site, here.

Online events

  • 9 October 8 pm Join a webinar in the comfort of your own home: Baby Loss, Miscarriage and Stillbirth. With Dr Raj Rai – Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic, St Mary’s HospitalSign up here
  • 15 October 7 – 7:30 pm Online Wave of Light Group Meditation Further information here

Parliamentary activity & events (invitation only)

England

  • 8-12 October: Display in Upper Waiting Hall in House of Commons, Westminster, on pregnancy and baby loss and the National Bereavement Care Pathway.
  • 9 October: Debate in House of Commons
  • 11 October: Event sponsored by the All Party Parliamentary Group on Baby Loss in the House of Commons to raise awareness of baby loss with MPs, followed by a remembrance service for MPs, peers and parliamentary staff.

Scotland

  • 3 October: Event in Scottish Parliament

Wales

  • 3 October: Debate in Welsh Assembly
  • 10 October: Candle Event sponsored by Mark Drakeford AM at Main Hall, The Pierhead, Cardiff

 

IMPOSSIBLY BRILLIANT HELP & SUPPORT NETWORKS // THERE FOR YOU 24/7

TOMMY’S

1 in 4 parents will have to go through the heartbreak of losing a child during pregnancy or birth. We need your help to stop these tragic deaths. Please join Team Tommy’s and help us find answers and cures.

Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy is a devastating experience. It is hard to believe that in this day and age, up to one in four women will lose a baby during pregnancy or birth.

Tommy’s exists to change the unacceptable statistics connected to baby loss.

Thanks to the support of our incredible community, our research has lead to a reduced stillbirth rate of 22% in Greater Manchester between 2010 and 2014 and a 23% reduction in premature births in high risk women attending our London clinic during 2014-15.

Learn more about the impact of our work here: http://bit.ly/2we9Cvk#Babyloss

DONATE >> Make a donation to Tommy’s, The Baby Charity.

THE MISCARRIAGE ASSOCIATION

Stories of good care
During Babyloss Awareness Week this year, the 40 participating charities and groups are calling for improved care following the loss of a baby during pregnancy, or during or shortly after birth.

As part of this campaign, we are asking people to share their experiences of good care they have received, perhaps from a midwife, sonographer, friend or colleague. If you would like to get involved, please email a story of less than 150 words to babyloss@sands.org.uk, copying us in on awareness@miscarriageassociation.org.uk.

You can find more details on the Babyloss Awareness Week website.

Wave of light this Monday
Last year we made a special video slideshow using hundreds of candles that lit up our Facebook page in memory of babies lost far too soon. If you’d like yours included this year, please add a note ‘For the video’ when you upload a picture.

While Baby Loss Awareness Week can be a special time of remembering and speaking about loss, we understand that it can also evoke painful memories. If you need to talk, please feel free to call our helpline on on 01924 200 799 (Monday – Friday9 a.m – 4 p.m) or see our website for other ways we offer support.

DONATE >> Make a donation to The Miscarriage Association

BABY LOSS AWARENESS

Share your experience – this could be by telling a friend about Baby Loss Awareness Week, talking about your experience or wearing a Baby Loss Awareness pin badge. You could also use our specially designed social media images on your website, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, work intranet or noticeboard.

DONATE >> Make a donation to Babyloss Awareness.

SANDS – STILLBIRTH AND NEONATAL DEATH CHARITY

Sands is the stillbirth and neonatal death charity. We operate throughout the UK, supporting anyone affected by the death of a baby, working to improve the care bereaved parents receive, and promoting research to reduce the loss of babies’ lives.

Sands, the stillbirth and neonatal death charity, was founded in 1978 by a small group of bereaved parents who were devastated by the death of their babies, and by the total lack of acknowledgement and understanding of the significance and impact of their loss.

DONATE >> Make a donation to SANDS.

THE LULLABY TRUST

The Lullaby Trust provides emotional support for bereaved families, promotes expert advice on safer baby sleep and raises awareness of sudden infant death.

Working with the NHS, we run a national health-visitor led service for bereaved parents, Care of Next Infant (CONI) programme, which supports families before and after the birth of their new baby.

We are committed to supporting research to understand why so many babies a year die suddenly and unexpectedly in the UK and to find out more about how to prevent these tragic deaths.

The Lullaby Trust operates nationwide across England, Wales and Northern Ireland. We run an information line for parents and professionals (0808 802 6869) and a dedicated line for bereaved families (0808 802 6868). Both are free to call from landlines and mobiles.

We campaign tirelessly, lobbying government to keep sudden infant death on the public health agenda. Since we formed as The Foundation for the Study of Sudden Infant Deaths (FSID) in 1971 we have been pivotal in reducing sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) by over 80%.

DONATE >> Make a donation to The Lullaby Trust

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ONLINE PETITE NEW ARRIVALS // 05.10.2018

ONLINE PETITE NEW ARRIVALS // 05.10.2018

This is the first weekly round-up of PETITE New Arrivals that have hit the Online Stores this week. I’ll do this every Friday, just in time for the weekend – though, sadly for my purse strings, as we all know, online shopping definitely isn’t limited to the weekend! All items are available online, at time of publishing this post.

Let me know if you see something you like! And don’t forget to tag me in any shots of your purchases – tag me @judypink and use the hashtag #NeverConciseShopping

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Off the back of my THIS IS ME blog post, I will now be mainly focussing on Petite styles for my blog. Going forward, I feel like this is most relevant to me and what I would WEAR. Being mid-size and petite is really difficult – so if I can find some styles that would suit my stature, then I hope they give you some inspiration too! I want to be completely honest in my focus and I really think embracing my “mid size, size” is the way to go forwards!

Have a great weekend!

C
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NEW ARRIVALS // 05.10.2018

TOPSHOP PETITE // FLARED JEANS //
£40.00
TOPSHOP PETITE // FLORAL PJ SHIRT //
£35.00
M&S (SHORTER LENGTH) // ANIMAL PRINT MIDI DRESS //
£69.00

I absolutely love this NEW dress from Marks & Spencer, who by the way, are consistently smashing the dress-game this season! I’ve not seen it IRL yet, but I think this in the shorter length would be a perfect shape for women with my stature. The silky-golden goodness makes it a perfect Christmas dress too (yep, I went there!). And you KNOW this dress is gonna fly out of stores and online, so in the words of M&S themselves, “GET IT OR CRY LATER”. Eeek!

MISS SELFRIDGE PETITE // RUST CO-ORD SUIT //
£67.00 (total price)
NEW LOOK PETITE // MOM JEANS WITH RIPS //
£27.99
RIVER ISLAND PETITE // FAUX LEATHER TROUSERS //
£46.00

 

Wide Fit Block Heel Faux Fur Sandals
M&S // BLOCK HEEL SANDALS //
£39.50

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I mean, does it get any better than fluffy heels?! And such a good price! These Marks & Spencer beauties will be smashing with dresses, skirts and allllll of the jeans!

 

RIVER ISLAND PETITE // TEDDY SHEARLING COAT //
£95.00
YAS PETITE // STRAIGHT LEG TROUSER //
£55.00
ASOS DESIGN PETITE // JUMPSUIT //
£38.00

 

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ASOS PETITE // ROLL NECK JUMPER //
£30.00
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ASOS DESIGN PETITE // CHECK COAT //
£75.00
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ASOS COLLUSION // PETITE // VEGAN LEATHER DUNGAREES
£35.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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ASOS PETITE //
FLAT KNEE HIGH BOOTS //

£45.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I will do a blog post on the new ASOS COLLUSION range next week as it’s really bloody cool. And really well priced too!

M&S // ANIMAL PRINT MIDI DRESS //
£39.50

And how could I not include a little bit of animal print? I love this shape that M&S keep reviving. It’s just the right shape for my stature. It nips in at the waist, which is flattering for ALL body shapes and sizes, and the long sleeves are always welcome.

 

 

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BABY LOSS AWARENESS 2018 // MARKS & SPENCER

BABY LOSS AWARENESS WEEK // 9TH – 15TH OCTOBER 2018

As we’re now into October (HOW? I know how, but seriously, HOW?!), I thought I would address a few things. But mainly this blog post is in support of a few items that Marks & Spencer have created in aid of raising awareness this Baby Loss Awareness Week (and month).

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The 4th October, just before Baby Loss Awareness Week 2018 begins, will be poignant for me as it’s a year to the day that my miscarriage finally came to an end (after beginning in the August of 2017).  Although, it doesn’t ever really ‘end’ really, does it?

A year of all the emotions. A year of wondering and wishing. A year of new and desperate hope.

Every year we will continue to acknowledge the baby that never landed in our arms, by joining in with the Wave of Light, annually, on 15th October.

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The death of a baby is not a rare event. It can happen to anyone.

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*Every year, thousands of people in the UK are affected by the death of a baby or experience pregnancy loss. With the shocking statistic that it will personally affect 1 in 4 of us.

A collaboration between more than 60 charities across the UK, Baby Loss Awareness Week is held from 9th to 15th October to raise awareness about the key issues affecting those who have experienced pregnancy loss or baby death in the UK.

Throughout the week bereaved parents, their families and friends, unite with each other and others across the world to commemorate the lives of babies who died during pregnancy, at or soon after birth and in infancy.

Now in its 16th year, Baby Loss Awareness Week calls for tangible improvements in research, care and policy around bereavement support and highlights bereavement support and services available for anyone affected by the death of a baby at any stage.

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With all this in mind, Marks & Spencer have collaborated and created three items to support raising awareness of such a worthy cause.

Pure Cotton Baby Loss Awareness T-Shirt
M&S // BABY LOSS AWARENESS TEE //
£9.50
Pure Cotton Baby Loss Awareness T-Shirt
M&S // BABY LOSS AWARENESS TEE //
£9.50

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

M&S // BABY LOSS AWARENESS CANDLE // £6.00

Amy Mott specially designed the t-shirt, is a buyer at M&S and has been personally affected by baby loss:

“Having been affected by baby loss I wanted to break the silence around the issue and get everyone talking about baby loss during the awareness week. My design on the T-shirt and candle is a meaningful tribute of the everlasting love that is felt for a baby and can be worn in support of this fantastic platform that offers advice and acts as a support network”.

M&S will also be donating £15,000 to help support Baby Loss Awareness Week. For more information, please visit babyloss-awareness.org.

Whether you’ve been affected by the loss of a baby, you know someone who has, or you wish to spread the message and show your support, this Baby Loss Awareness candle and other candles will be uniting the world through social media on 15th October, in the name of the many babies who lit up our lives for just a short moment. Use the hashtag’s #WaveofLight, #BLAW2018 to share your love and support.

Thank you to Marks and Spencer for supporting Baby Loss Awareness Week. These specially designed t-shirts and the candle are now available to purchase online. Thank you for helping us to break the silence around pregnancy and continue the #babyloss conversation.

*words & statistics taken from https: //babyloss-awareness.org


Read more from my journey:

Miscarriage & Me
Miscarriage & Me // An Update
Miscarriage & Me // An Update: 2
Miscarriage & Me // An Update: 3
Baby Loss Awareness Week 2017 // Break the silence
Miscarriage & Me // An Update: 4
JULY 2018:  Miscarriage & Me // An Update: 5
AUGUST 2018: Miscarriage & Me // A letter to myself | Hi-Mama Letters

Support networks:

Baby Loss Awareness 
The Miscarriage Association
Tommy’s, The Baby Charity
Cruse, Bereavement Care
SANDS, Stillbirth & Neonatal Charity

 

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NEVER KNOWINGLY CONCISE // THIS IS ME

THIS IS ME

Where do I even begin with this?

Right, DEEP BREATH. Here we go!

I have always been small, in height, the smallest at school… the smallest in every single friendship group since then. The smallest in the family. When I was working at Eli’s school last year, there were even children almost my height, and they were pushing age 8 (!!), if that. I was often mocked as a child because of my height, “short arse” and “little legs” are the nicer of the names I was referred to. It made me feel ‘picked on’, and singled out to be referred to because of my height. I wear my heart on my sleeve. I know I shouldn’t, but I actually really DO care what other people think – to my own detriment.

I had the familiar pang of sadness, that I’d had so many times as a child, when Eli came along. He’s on the shorter side of “the chart” for his age – he’s always followed the same line on the chart. He was born with several conditions too (Talipes, Torticollis, Hypermobility) which in turn could have some kind of effect on his growth. He’s actually only just below average height for his age. Most kids are ABOVE AVERAGE in height; making him look smaller. I became/become hyper-sensitive when we get adults proclaim  “Oh isn’t he small!” “Eli is so tiny for his age isn’t he!” “My son is 3 years younger than him and already his height!”. Why are you even referring to his height? Why is it such a BIG THING for you to point out? I’m totally digressing from my own issues here because I’m being defensive and protective of him; but just wanted to point out that your throwaway comments about something like height (and I’ll get onto this now, but also, weight) can actually hit someone in such a bad way, especially when they’re already mega conscious of what you’re pointing out. Instead of referring to my son’s height, how about you refer to how agile and strong and clever and cheeky and funny and how unbelievably caring and creative he is?

ANYWAY…

Back to it.

My height I cannot do anything about and I wholly accept that. So why oh why have I found body-acceptance so damn difficult?

I’m a complete little bit ginger (which again, I was cruelly bullied for as a child), I have a gazillion freckles, I have a rather large nose (which I do now accept and got pierced later in life because I was learning to embrace it… not embraced enough for me to tell my parents I’d had it pierced however!). I didn’t grow up with a good self image. At all. I’ve always struggled to look in the mirror.

I’m ‘petite’ – I’m quite literally 5 foot nothing. I have big old Mothering hips and a bust. I had a big arse well before it was in fash-un. I distinctly remember being told I had a ‘duck bum’ (that protruded as I walked), as a child. Putting on the odd pound here or there makes me look massive because of my height and stature.  My body shape is TOTALLY different to how it was when I was 8, when I was 15, when I was 21, heck, when I was pregnant with Eli at 26 and it’s even different to the months and years following the birth of Eli.

When I became a parent, I KNEW, I had to let go of the self-conscious me. I KNEW I had to let go of the cringing in the mirror. I KNEW I had to let go of the posing at my best angle and just live in the now and be the natural me in photographs.

I knew all this and still continued through life with the same mindset – just now being extra careful not to project any of my feelings onto Eli directly. I’m ALWAYS the one behind the camera. Never in front – unless my body is cropped – or unless I take a mirror selfie (the one I post is usually out of around 2000 that I take and cry over before eventually posting). It makes me so bloody sad going through our photos from our recent holiday to Florida; I’m barely in any of them. There’s probably 3 that I let James take of me and I would never ever post them. (He would be the first to admit that he is just awful at taking candid photos – so theres no point wasting phone memory on taking any of me at all). The confidence issue doesn’t stop with the photo-taking though.  I also walked around in 40c heat in Florida with my arms covered every single day. I was sweating like I never even imagined I could sweat, but still, I refused to take of the kimono or the jacket or the long sleeved dress. WHY? Because all of these strangers would see my bare arms?! GOD FORBID LASS. It’s nuts isn’t it? It’s actually nuts. I am my own worst enemy.

Since having Eli 6 years ago, my body has changed drastically. I put on 4 stone whilst pregnant with him. It came off quite slowly. I did every diet possible – but in the end I stuck to slim fast and the 5:2. Within a few months, I had gone down to a size 8-10. And I was still miserable. I was still unhappy with my body. The scars, the stretch marks, the wobbly bits. My dumpy little legs and my zero torso cos Petite. I still didn’t want to have my photograph taken. I still didn’t want to look in the mirror.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m now 32 and I’m only truly learning what it means to have ‘self-love’. I had a tough time following my miscarriage last year – not just because of the obvious. But because I was blaming this sack of a body I had to get around in. I blamed by body for failing to protect that baby that was so wanted. But my body wasn’t to blame at all. My body did what it needed to. When I realised that, I realised and understood how strong my body really is. How amazing my body actually is. But still, I couldn’t get that emotional response to project onto the outside and transfer into true body confidence.

For years I have watched and admired the confidence of so many amazing women across the media. (REAL women, like you and I). People like @StyleMeSunday and her Body Confidence campaigns – instantly jump to mind. For years I have wished I had just an ounce of that confidence. To be able to dress to my size, to not hide behind the floaty dresses (I will still love my floaty dresses, but not for playing hide & seek in!) , at jaunty angles and to actually feel comfortable within my own skin. To allow photographs to be taken of me… photos of me and my boy.  After all, when we’re gone, the only thing that will remain are these photographs of precious times and now all I can think about is the lack of any photographic evidence of us all together. It’s really just so sad, isn’t it? It’s terrible.

So? What’s your point? Well, stranger on the internet, I have began to finally feel better about my body.  More recently, folk like @mollyjforbes, @Inpolife, @life_with_Ivycoco, and of course, @CharliHoward@Erica_Davies & @HannahfGale – have all posted such amazing content with such honesty, how can I not take just a little bit of it on board? How can I not think better of my own body and bones?

About a month ago I went to a gathering organised by @MidsizeCollective – I almost didn’t go. I felt massive. I was beyond nervous. I was going on my own (I did meet up with long-time IG pal @i0wen in the end!). It all felt too much. I didn’t want anxiety to get the better of me.

I’m so bloody glad I went. It was exceptionally inspiring to be in a room with other women who understood me and my body shape. To be able to chat and share in our shopping woes of being ‘middle sized’ women. Because, you know what, we are the forgotten women. Not skinny… but not plus size. We’re NORMAL sized women. But why does it feel like we’re invisible? Why is it so difficult to find clothing that fits us? Why, oh, why, do we find body confidence so damn hard to work with?! Why are we not represented within the Fashion industry… within shops and their marketing? WHY OH WHY OH WHY?

I just want to feel comfortable in the skin that I have. To be comfortable with the skin that I’m in; whatever my size. To have appreciation for my body; and confidence in where my body takes me. We ALL have a body, whatever shape or size or height or colour(s) it may well be. So that’s our NORMAL. No more, definitely, no less. We’re all NORMAL.

And you know what? I heard that THICK THIGHS, SAVE LIVES. So it must be ok!

I also just wanted to give  a shout out to @annacarsarina, who has also set up her new account all about Mid-Size and Mid-Age style – she has carefully curated such a beautiful feed full of body happiness and inspiration. So thank you Anna – and thank you to all the other women mentioned above (and to those beyond this blog post) who have shown true and honest versions of themselves in a bid to normalise body confidence. THANK YOU. You are wonderful women and it’s also kind of ridiculous that we’re even having to write about this in 2018, isn’t it? Anyway, again, thank you for being YOU. I wouldn’t be sat here typing this out, without you.

So from this day forward, I swear I’m going to be happier in my own skin – I’m going to ALLOW photographs to be taken of me, candid or otherwise. I’m not about to jump into a bikini and show off all my bits… but I promise that I’m going to beat these bloody body confidence blues and get on with my life. Because you know what? Life is too hard and too tiring and it’s just too damn short to be fussing over what you look like in a pair of skinny jeans or with your arms out… or ON THE DAMN BEACH. Yes I could do with loosing a few more pounds (I cycle every day for almost 2 hours, but I also love crisps and chips and gravy), but importantly, I’m giving up on feeling body-shame and I’m going to embrace what I have, in the now and at the minute. And I would urge you to do the very same.

I cannot imagine what life must be like for those who are bringing up daughters. The pressure must just be so immense surrounding body positivity. I find it difficult enough bringing up a son in this world and talk endlessly to Eli about how we’re all different shapes and sizes and colours and that’s what makes us all so cool! The fact we’re all different and truly unique and diverse. The more we educate and understand and share the honesty, then the more NORMAL this whole movement will become. Hopefully, it won’t even BE a movement any longer – because, we’re all just out there living our best lives.

Additionally, I’m going to be using my social media platforms as a place to shout about Petite styles and fashion and inspiration because no, there isn’t enough of it out there. I’ve always tried to be inclusive of my styling tips/recommendations, but the industry definitely isn’t inclusive of people like me and my size. So sod the industry, and PETITE WOMEN, LET’S UNITE! #PetiteWomenUnite

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And there we have it.  My body confidence post, DONE.

Peace & Love

C
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ONLINE NEW ARRIVALS // 21.09.18

ONLINE NEW ARRIVALS // 21.09.2018

This is my second weekly round-up of New Arrivals that have hit the Online Stores this week. I’ll do this every Friday, just in time for the weekend – though, sadly for my purse strings, as we all know, online shopping definitely isn’t limited to the weekend! All items are available online, at time of publishing this post.

Let me know if you see something you like! And don’t forget to tag me in any shots of your purchases – tag me @judypink and use the hashtag #NeverConciseShopping

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Just a note for next week: from next Friday my weekly round-up of New Arrivals will be focussing on Petite Fashion styles only. I will be posting a separate blog post next week regarding my size and feelings about this. I want to be completely honest in my focus and I really think embracing my “mid size, size” is the way to go forwards!

Have a great weekend!

C
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NEW ARRIVALS // 21.09.2018

TOPSHOP // TRENCH COAT //
£59.00
TOPSHOP // PAISLEY SHIRT DRESS //
£49.99

& OTHER STORIES // WOOL CAMEL COAT //
£169.00
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& OTHER STORIES // OVERSIZED KNIT //
£79.00

Zebra leather ankle boots
MANGO // ZEBRA ANKLE BOOT //
£89.99
Leopard print dress
MANGO // LEOPARD PRINT DRESS //
£59.99
Women's Sarana Leather Biker Jacket (black) - Image 1
ALLSAINTS // SARANA LEATHER BIKER JACKET //
£345.00
Pocket long cardigan
MANGO // LONG CARDIGAN //
£49.99
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ASOS DESIGN // SAFARI PRINT NIGHTWEAR //
£28.00
Colour Block Satin Pleated Midi Skirt
MARKS & SPENCER // COLOUR BLOCK SKIRT //
£39.50
NEXT // LEOPARD PRINT MIDI SKIRT //
£48.00
Corduroy structured blazer
MANGO // CORDUROY BLAZER //
£89.99
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PUBLIC DESIRE // RENZO BLOCK HEEL BOOT //
39.99
BuyWarehouse Pocket Detail Faux Leather Skirt, Berry, 6 Online at johnlewis.com
WAREHOUSE // FAUX LEATHER MINI SKIRT //
£32.00
TOPSHOP @ SELFRIDGES // MOO CROMBIE //
£95.00
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NEW LOOK // FLUFFY YARN CARDIGAN //
£19.99
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CALVIN KLEIN // CK JEANS BELT //
£50.00
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VERSACE JEANS // CROSS BODY BAG //
£145.00
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HARRY STYLES x GUCCI // CRUISE 2019 COLLECTION

 

Gucci Creative Director // Alessandro Michele
Photographer // Glen Luchford
Art Director // Christopher Simmonds
#GucciCruise19

HARRY STYLES x GUCCI – CRUISE 2019

I don’t normally look at Menswear, but I mean, ANY excuse to get a little bit of Harry Styles on my blog is fine by me… Just look at this new Gucci Tailoring campaign that landed this morning.

I *think* this second campaign for Gucci is even better than the first

24 year old Harry is seen in the great outdoors for his return to Gucci Tailoring – photographed again by Glen Luchford. The setting is less chip-shop and more historic this time however, as Harry is photographed in Vila Lante, just north of Rome. Similarly to his first shoot with the brand though, small animals make a cute return whilst again, Harry pushes his sartorial boundaries with a mixture of fabrics and textures, creating the perfect match of brand and muse.

Here, Harry is modelling the brand’s Cruise 2019 Tailoring collection – with his co-stars this time taking on the form of piglet, goat and lamb – against the backdrop of the stunning Renaissance gardens of the 16th Century Italian villa.

“The campaign playfully positions Harry Styles’s personal, urban take on the Gucci tailoring wardrobe amongst the classic, stylised landscape of the gardens, where fountains, grottoes and mazes characterise the ancient surroundings,” reads a statement from the brand released this morning.

It goes without saying that the return of the hairband provokes images of ‘old Harry’, or ‘Harry BC (before hair cut) – and also,  the distinct resemblance between Harry and Keith Richards.

“We’ve long seen Harry rock a Keith Richards-style headscarf, but this is an updated take that few could pull of like the singer-songwriter does. The hairband becomes a fitting accompaniment to the coloured jacquards, patches, checkered prints, unusual proportions and a particularly fetching pair of lilac tailored trousers. It’s a heightened take on his on-stage look”.

Say what you like, but I personally love this shoot. It has a grand air of Oscar Wilde about it. Harry looks like a real dandy man in the new Tailoring; full of wise quips and charisma.

The full campaign will be released in November, so keep your eyes peeled on @Gucci first and foremost for the latest updates.

The release of the above collection of images comes two months after Harry completed his world tour, which not only confirmed his status as a solo star post-One Direction, but also raised $1.2 million for charity. (There literally isn’t anything that Harry can’t do wrong – at all).

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SHOOT CREDITS

In the stylised gardens of Villa Lante, built in late Renaissance, @harrystyles wears the latest tailoring designs by Gucci Creative Director, Alessandro Michele.
Photographer: @_glen_luchford
Art Director: @christophersimmonds

#GucciCruise19

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So what do you make of the images? Harry for Gucci, friend or foe?

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ONLINE NEW ARRIVALS // 14.09.18

My first weekly round-up of New Arrivals that have hit the Online Stores this week. I’ll do this every Friday, just in time for the weekend – though, sadly for my purse strings, as we all know, online shopping definitely isn’t limited to the weekend! All items are available online, at time of publishing this post.

For a side note, I’m Mid-Sized. I’m 5 ft nothing. I’m somewhere between 10-14, depending on the shop. We are the forgotten women. I hope my pick’s are inclusive for all. But just to give you an idea of my stature; and I hope my pick’s help you too, whatever your dress size!

Don’t forget to tag me in any shots of your purchases – tag me @judypink and use the hashtag #NeverConciseShopping

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NEW ARRIVALS // 14.09.2018

TOPSHOP CLEAN CHECK MIDI COAT - £115.00
TOPSHOP // CLEAN CHECK COAT //
£115.00
VERO MODA // MIX PRINT MIDI DRESS //
£40.00
VILA // TAILORED JACKET //
£60.00
TOPSHOP oversized argyle jumper with roll neck - £45.00
TOPSHOP // OVERSIZED ARGYLE JUMPER //
45.00
TOPSHOP LEOPARD SKINNY JAMIE JEANS - £46.00
TOPSHOP // LEOPARD PRINT JAMIE JEANS //
£46.00
TOPSHOP SNAKE PRINT MIDI SKIRT IN PINK - £39.00
TOPSHOP // SNAKE PRINT MIDI SKIRT //
£39.00
TOPSHOP CABLE KNIT CARDIGAN IN OAT - £39.00
TOPSHOP // CABLE KNIT CARDIGAN //
£39.00

 

TOPSHOP CIARA CHUNKY TRAINERS - £39.00
TOPSHOP // CIARA CHUNKY TRAINERS //
£39.00
ASOS BOILER SUIT JUMP SUIT IN BLACK CORD, CORDUROY
ASOS // BOILER SUIT IN CORDUROY //
£55.00
ONLY - ASOS - TEDDY COAT - BORG JACKET - £55.00
ONLY // TEDDY COAT //
£55.00

 

RIVER ISLAND HUGGIE HOOP MINI EARRINGS GOLD COPPER SILVER - £8.00
RIVER ISLAND // HUGGIE HOOP EARRINGS //
£8.00

 

 

 

 

ASOS DESIGN // MIX PRINT TRAPEZE MIDI DRESS //<BR>£42.00
ASOS DESIGN // MIX PRINT MIDI DRESS //
£42.00
Snake print gown - RED - MANGO - £69.99
MANGO // SNAKE PRINT MIDI DRESS //
£69.99
& OTHER STORIES // CORDUROY CULOTTES //<BR>£59.00
& OTHER STORIES // CORDUROY CULOTTES //
£59.00
& OTHER STORIES // CHECK MIDI SKIRT //<BR>£59.00
& OTHER STORIES // CHECK MIDI SKIRT //
£59.00
MARKS AND SPENCER // SLIM LEG JOGGERS //<BR>£25.00
MARKS AND SPENCER // SLIM LEG JOGGERS //
£25.00
MARKS & SPENCER // MAXI SHIRT DRESS // <BR>£45.OO
MARKS & SPENCER // MAXI SHIRT DRESS //
£45.00
NEXT // LEOPARD PRINT PYJAMAS // £36.00
NEXT // LEOPARD PRINT PYJAMAS //
£36.00
MONKI // LEOPARD PRINT JUMPSUIT // <BR>£30.00
MONKI // LEOPARD PRINT JUMPSUIT //
£30.00
Big Love Jumper | hush
HUSH // BIG LOVE JUMPER //
£130.00

 

 

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NEVER CONCISE HOME // LIVING ROOM // Mid-Season Update

MID-SEASON LIVING ROOM UPDATE

As we’re now in September (HOW, seriously, HOW?),  and Eli is back to school, I can finally get round to tidying up the house. I have a rather large wish-list of items I’d love for our home, of which I am continually adding to! Having rented for the 15 years we’ve been together, it sometimes feels like our home isn’t ‘home’ as we can’t ever rip up the carpets, or decorate with paints or paper, or add extensions or knock down walls etc. But by using accessories and furniture, we can certainly make the blank canvas that we currently call home a bit more like our own.

INSTAGRAM RUG - AFAR BERBER RUG - LA REDOUTE
LA REDOUTE // “THE INSTAGRAM RUG” // Afaw Berber Rug
£99.00
LA REDOUTE // WATFORD SHELF (SET OF 2) //
£76.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Rugs are a great way to add texture, warmth and of course, personality to a room. I still adore the ‘Instagram Rug‘ from La Redoute.  The Afaw Berber style rug is off white, which is flattering to any colour scheme, but also hides a multitude of sins when you have kids running about – pristine white is a bit of a no-go in our house, that’s for sure!

LA REDOUTE // HIBA MAGAZINE RACK //
£65.00
habitat coralie side table
HABITAT // CORALIE // Side Table //
WAS: £150.00 – NOW: £75.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We have a few leather and natural wood accents in our home. I made the coffee table we currently use from an older butchers block with black Dansette legs. So this Habitat side table would sit really nicely next to that.

COX & COX // SCANDI LOVE SEAT // Blush Pink Velvet
COX & COX // SCANDI LOVE SEAT // Blush Pink
£1,295.00

Can you ever go wrong with a bit of blush pink? We currently only really have blush pink accents in our main bedroom. But I love this COX & COX Love Seat so much, it would have to be in the living room!

made.com bex round circle mirror in black
MADE.COM // BEX MIRROR // Black
£99.00
made.com essentials clock black morley
MADE.COM // MORLEY CLOCK // Black
£10.00

 

 

How much of a bargain is this Made.com Clock? At just £10, this is a great  timepiece for the wall with a minimalist aesthetic, reminiscent of the beautiful Swiss railway clocks.

 DYLAN BASE habitat walnut lamp standard floor lamp stand
HABITAT // DYLAN LAMP BASE // Walnut //
£95.00
Buy Cowshed Limited Edition 20th Anniversary Double Wick Candle , 400g Online at johnlewis.com
COWSHED // 20TH ANNIVERSARY CANDLE // 400G £65.00
Uyova Amulet-Shaped Metal Mirror - LA REDOUTE
LA REDOUTE // UYOVA AMULET-SHAPED MIRROR // Metal //
£27.00
Cushion cover - Beige/Patterned - Home All | H&M GB 1
H&M HOME // CUSHION // Beige //
£19.99
Buy Umbra Trigg Small Wall Planters, White, Set of 2 Online at johnlewis.com
UMBRA // SMALL WALL PLANTERS // White //
£25.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Cement Style Tall Planter next
NEXT // TALL PLANTER // Cement //
£55.00

I’m currently in love with Danish planters and I love the modern twist of Cement with these from NEXT (!!!! I KNOW!).

LA REDOUTE // TREBLA BASKET // Small //
£27.00
COX & COX // BOOT RACK // Black //
£65.00
Luxe Round Bamboo Drinks Trolley
OLIVER BONAS // DRINKS TROLLEY // Bamboo //
£395.00

 

Ahhh the beautiful bar cart of dreams from Oliver Bonas! I have a feeling this will be on my wishlist for a loooooooong time. This bar cart (well, initially the stunning vintage carts and trolleys of Soho House…) inspired me to make my very own bar cart – you can see my blog post on the DIY for this > HERE!

Abstract Framed Print
NEXT // ABSTRACT PRINT // Framed //
£35.00
Jett 6 Light Fitting
NEXT // JETT LIGHT FITTING // Black Metal //
£110.00
Florbella Scalloped Ceramic Vase
OLIVER BONAS // SCALLOPED VASE // Ceramic //
£27.00

 

 

 

 

Marble Ball Incense Holder
OLIVER BONAS // INCENSE HOLDER // Marble //
£19.00

 

BuyJohn Lewis & Partners Chunky Knit Throw, Natural Online at johnlewis.com
JOHN LEWIS & PARTNERS // THROW // Chunky Knit //
£65.00
Hush Linen & Room Spray | hush
HUSH HOMEWEAR // ROOM SPRAY // Linen //
£19.00

 

The Monet foot stool - Att Pynta
ATT PYNTA // FOOT STOOL // Rattan //
£245.00
Handmade Stoneware glazed plant hanger with bead detail
ATT PYNTA // STONEWARE HANGER // Handmade //
£35.00

 

 

IKEA FEJKA artificial potted plant
IKEA // FEJKA // Artificial Bamboo Plant //
£45.00

If you’re not so green-fingered, IKEA stock a brilliant range of artificial plants and flowers. I love this Bamboo, it looks really life-like in, er, real life.

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MARKS & SPENCER // FERN // Crackle Pot //
£49.50
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MARKS & SPENCER // CACTUC // IN CRACKLE POT
£49.50

 

OFFERS & PROMOTIONS

25% off everything code at La Redoute

25% off all home at La Redoute!
Code: SAVE25
Ends: 27th September 2018

CLICK TO SHOP

 

I like to move furniture about to give a fresh lease of life to a room – this is a a great way to change your perspective of a room without dipping into the bank. But if you had the cash at hand, what new Living Room items would you go for first? What are you lusting after?

#NeverKnowinglyConciseHOME

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WHAT I WORE // THE TOPSHOP “CHEETA” DRESS

TOPSHOP // CHEETA CHUCK ON DRESS // £39.00
TOPSHOP // CHEETA CHUCK ON DRESS // £39.00

Thought I’d do a wee post on this here very dress. It’s one of my favourites at the moment, and I know a lot of you loved it too. The TOPSHOP insiders heard you loved it so much and have just re-stocked so here is the link to >>> SHOP

Why do I love this dress? Well, I’d say I’m a ‘mid-size’ woman, not helped by my 5 foot nothing stature. (So its more like maxi dress, than midi on me). I’d say this is my favourite shape to wear – dare I say it even elongates me? But the very BEST thing about this dress? No, not the print, no not the lace finish… it’s got POCKETS!🤸‍♀️ This dress is also on the cheaper side for Topshop, at £39.00. 

Just gotta hope Topshop keep this shape going with new prints, I’d definitely buy them all! 

OUTFIT DEETS

DRESS // TOPSHOP – Cheeta Chuck-on Midi Dress
SHOES // MONKI – Fluffy Sliders
LIPS // MAC – Ruby Woo
iPHONE COVER // Love Island (!)

Peace & love
C

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SHOP SIMILAR LOOKS

MONKI TIGER PRINT DRESS
MONKI // TIGER PRINT MIDI DRESS //
£35.00
MONKI LEODOT MIDI DRESS
MONKI // LEODOT MIDI DRESS //
£25.00

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MONKI // FLUFFY SLIDERS // £30.00
MONKI // FLUFFY SLIDERS //
£30.00
MAC - RUBY WOO - LIPSTICK
MAC // RUBY WOO //
£17.50

 

 

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BRAND IN FOCUS // &OTHER STORIES x THE DEEP END CLUB

“I think if everyone applied a little bit of ‘Give a damn’ to their life, we’d see a huge shift instantly.”
– Tennessee Thomas

 

As you know, I love a good collaboration – & Other Stories seem to get it spot on when they choose to partner up with a brand. Their latest marriage is with LA-formed, Deep End Club; a creative community where activism meets art to bring change to the world. Founded by Tennessee Thomas in 2013, this collaboration is currently only available online and within the UK and Europe. So these tee’s won’t stick around for long! Together, these two brands have  joined forces to share the message of Tennessee’s printed tees and why giving a damn matters.

Which is your favourite Tee?

CLICK HERE TO SHOP

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In her own words, Tennessee shares the story behind the co-lab. It’s all about the empowering force of a t-shirt.

In Solidarity //
£35.00
Give a Damn Tee //
£35.00
Open Doors //
£35.00

 

 

The Deep End Club //
£35.00

“The ‘GIVE A DAMN’ t-shirt works as a great conversation starter.

What do you give a damn about? It’s a t-shirt that resonates how we’ve started giving a damn all over the world! For me, it evokes the power of the Women’s March last year after Trump got elected, and how incredible it was when millions of women went out to protest. It shows how it’s a female-driven movement right now, to give a damn.This co-lab came naturally when Caroline from & Other Stories’ Stockholm atelier attended one of The Deep End Club’s radical open mics and proposed the idea. The campaign images are very personal as they were shot at The Deep End Club space in L.A. with my friends Sasami, Kyleigh and Ariel who all are activists engaged in many issues, such as removing landmines and spreading environmental awareness.I’ve found The Deep End Club to be a beautiful experience. First started as a shop where I used clothes as a way to spread a message, now it’s become a physical space where art and activism meet. Having been a drummer in a rock band, I consider these t-shirts to be like merch for what The Deep End Club stands for – a community empowering you to make a difference.”

Make sure you don´t miss it by signing up for the &Other Stories  newsletter.

CLICK HERE TO SHOP

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

C

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